-Roald Dahl

My Instagram followers are at my current favourite number, that makes me happy! :-) 

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Thanks, Willy ❤️

So glad this gorgeous man is supporting the cause!! It shows the news is spreading and hopefully they'll bring our girls back soon...

"Better to do something imperfectly than to do nothing flawlessly." 

- Dr. Robert Schuller

I've not written a proper post in some time. I know this is long, but I feel like it's important... 

This is so true. You've always got to think before you act and speak in LOVE, not spite, meanness or hatred. 

It can feel good for you to knock people down & establish your power but that's a sign of weakness & not strength. You can never truly build yourself up if all you do is knock down yourself & others. It feels so much better to be kind, loving & warm to everyone you meet because then you'll be happier inside & you can help them heal. If you're sad or hurt,all you need is comfort & kindness. You don't know what battles people are facing so you need to always be kind. Be a light. 

Don't be cold, warmth isn't a sign of weakness, in fact coldness is because it shows you're scared to be kind & open your heart up. You can be kind & open your heart up without being vulnerable. 

 As I always say, if you feel a lot of love in your heart for something/oneit's for a reason- they need it so don't be scared to share it, just go ahead & help love find a way. Help build them up. (I get this message a lot so I guess it's important)

This leads me nicely on to my next point. You can destroy confidence in what you say as aforementioned  but  also what you don't say & don't do. 

Whether we like to admit to it or not, in some way or another everyone seeks some kind of approval or recognition. Since we were children, we wanted our mummies to tell us "well done!" Or we loved it when we got a certificate or sticker from the teacher from being good & everyone wanted it! 

We try to gain the approval of those that matter to us & we those care about. Unfortunately, those people may not be interested in being kind or in appreciating you, talking to you and praising you for your efforts. This can- and does destroy confidence & ultimately lead to vulnerability because person A is seeking the recognition of person B, but B doesn't recognise, or recognises but doesn't praise or appreciate the efforts of A. So what happens? A tries harder & harder to please & gain concrete approval from B. 

It ends up with A just doing everything to please B to get this approval which B never gives. Imagine how your confidence would be if you tried your damnedest & it went unrecognised?  That project that you work/ed really hard on, and put loads of time in, imagine if no one appreciated it. You can be successful but if that one person doesn't appreciate & praise you, it feels like nothing. 

People try & shrug it off but it still hurts. We all try, and if you're trying for something, for someone you want it to be recognised. 

Please don't be person B. Person B hurts people, consciously or not. You should never be ashamed or afraid to spread love nor should you assume that it's ever not needed. Love is always needed. 

(If you've been reading my blog you'll know I believe love is the core of everyone & everything we need. We came in love, we were created by love & it's the only thing that really moves us, love in all it's form, passion, lust, even hatred is from love as it's when love goes wrong... In order to hate, you must have first loved)

However, you should be ashamed if you're not sharing the love & being kind to everyone not just the privileged few and behaviour like that is why the world is so cruel. People are 'kind' in order to make the right friends & join the right cliques.  You should be ashamed if you are not honest with your emotions & you feel something strongly in your heart & you turn your back on it. Shame on you. Of course if you don't try you'll have zero chance. And I promise you, with my hand on my heart that if you turn your back on  anything or anyone that moves you, you will cause huge damage. To you & others. Huge, I swear to you, because you know holding back & numbing makes you unhappy etc & eventually, as you're a human and there's only so much you can take, you'll have a breakdown. All because you didn't want to open your heart for whatever reason. I'm being guided to say, don't fall victim to your EGO. I think that's what gets in the way of people actually going & getting what they want. 

They think... Less dissapointnent if you don't try & you don't make the effort to make it happen cause you know, leave it to happen itself & work with it then cause you can still save face if it goes wrong that way... If this is how any of y'all think I feel to kick you. You should be ashamed. I mean I just can't even be bothered to point all the flaws out in this but since when did ANYTHING work out, since when did your dreams come true from you doing nothing? You do nothing, the result will be nothing. I mean is it working out so far in terms if the progress of a situation you've been in and has it ever worked out from you doing fuckall? I didn't think so. 

They feel they'll fail so they give up before they try. They think I have 0 chance & they scare themselves. Bullshit. But if you think like that you will fail. At everything. Not just the situation because I'll let you in a little secret, it takes courage to win. 

If after some weeks or months you still think about it, it stil moves you... you need to do something. Nothing will be in your heart for no reason. 

I digress,

Know that when you limit yourself you're limiting others too. There's nothing more painful than seeing the demise of someone or feeling it yourself, all because no one appreciated you/them & they/you felt alone. 

Know that you can run away from your problems but you can't run away from yourself, your mind & your heart and those are where the problem really lies. You see, some people think, 'hey I know what's wrong with me, I realise what my problems are!' but don't do anything to deal with it (hence they still have major problems). Those people are deluded. The problem isn't actually their problem... the problem is how they are (or more often than not aren't) dealing with it. That's what's really screwing them over.

Off on a tangent again, where was I...

Also, be kind you don't have to pretend to be the 'happy one that cheers everyone up' those those are typically the miserable people with a stupid sense of humour, you just need to be sincere and wholehearted, be kind and for God's sakes be HONEST. If you're honest about whatever is plaguing you and you do something about what is making you sad as opposed to just being sad, you won't have to be sad pretending to be happy because you will genuinely be happy and have what you want. And those are the best people to uplift us, the ones without a burden on their soul cause they're honest, speak their heart & deal with things as they arise as opposed to trying to blot it out. 

Also, make sure you're sorrounded by the right people. If you are sad and pretending to be happy but they don't realise... They're not your good friends or you've been hiding behind so many masks they don't know the real you. 

But I don't know, for me it's really obvious when someone isn't happy I don't know how it is for others though but I feel like people usually realise but just go along with the happy façade unless you're outright crying or something cause it is easier. In my opinion one should always try and help a friend and so that's a bad thing to do. 

Anyways I'll stop here, I hope I've given you some food for thought. I hope I've kick started a change in you because it all comes down to honesty and love- for yourself, others, earth etcetera. If you aren't honest & you don't deal with what life throws at you or you keep things in your heart, you will never be happy. Never is a very strong word, but I mean it. Try some of what I've suggested and see how your life changes. It won't be all sunshine and roses but you won't be deeply unhappy, unsatisfied and have that emptiness that nothing can fill anymore. 

Love you &... Till next time, (man, I haven't said that in ages) 

-Dalanda :-)) xxxxxx

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:-)

 "The difference between my darkness and your darkness is that I can look at my own badness in the face and accept its existence while you are busy covering your mirror with a white linen sheet. The difference between my sins and your sins is that when I sin I know I'm sinning while you have actually fallen prey to your own fabricated illusions. 

I am a siren, a mermaid; I know that I am beautiful while basking on the ocean's waves and I know that I can eat flesh and bones at the bottom of the sea. 

You are a white witch, a wizard; your spells are manipulations and your cauldron from hell, yet you wrap yourself in white and wear a silver wig." 

Love this song, his vocals, the lyrics....

*chills*

A stiletto on your neck...

Edgar Allen Poe

Distance

I love this guy!

 

#BringBackOurGirls

Don't stop praying & spreading the news. 

Too many tears have been shed & we need to keep raising awareness so that the Nigerisn government are pressured internationally as well as domestically to get those girls back. 

Many have already been abused and assulted and it's heartbreaking. They are our sisters. 

Once again, don't stop spreading the word. 

Sunrise...

:-)

Always & forever.

No matter what.  

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Review: Liz Earle Signature lip colour in Maple #17

I don't usually review products much here, but a friend of mine recommended I do, and I may launch a seperate blog to review things etc I'm not too sure, I'll see after mid June...

On to the review...

The packaging for this lip profuct is fairly bog-standard, nothing to rave about and to me felt a bit light and cheap as the plastic itself felt less sturdy than other cheaper lipsticks I've tried (this was £14) however the design of the packaging and container was quite sleek and the black on white writing reminded me a bit of Chanel's packaging. 

The actual product 

I really like the product, I'd say it's more like a gloss & it adds a nice iridescent shimmer to the lips without really changing the colour (unless of course, you go for one of the coloured varieties) but it's quite subtle and nice, like a gloss with a bit of je ne sais quoi. 

Final verdict: 

It's nice, pretty on the lips but fairly boring, if I was to repurchase it, it would probably be another colour for a bit more oomph as it is more or less a glorified gloss by itself in this shade, but I'd recommend it if you want something simple & subtle . 

I hope this was helpful,

-Dalanda

Xxx

Flashback!

Don't miss out on the real things. Don't chase the goal on your mind and forget the one in your heart. 

Some grass & some flowers. I don't like flowers anymore, I used to but I really can't anymore for personal reasons, they make me sad, but the grass was pretty, some blades were alive & some dead... Life & death together as one & so pretty. 

It was a beautiful day today weather-wise, it was sunny & I wore on a little summer dress and sandals at long last because we haven't had warm weather in ages & it was raining only yesterday but Summer seems to have set in nicely. 

I also had dinner at my friends' today and we had a good laugh (so much so her mum got pissed off at us...oooops) and I sorted some stuff out, made some things, wrote, read... All the usual things I do in a day- I do different things but there's also some things I always do. 

I'm surprised I did so much today because I've got a pretty bad tummy ache- it woke me at 6:30 after I went to sleep at like 2:30am -_- , but we must work through everything regardless of whether your stomach is deciding to twerk or not.

I have a small essay to write, I might do it now or in the morning, probably now. I really need to find a German to do essays with me... Their grammar is so friggin silly, it makes sense within itself but it's tricky in comparison to English, and all the grammar books are wrong in how they seperate word groups, articles etc in terms of 'gender' and I could go on but I'm sure you don't want to read my opinion on German linguistics. 

I don't even know why I picked it, I mean I had an overwhelming feeling that I should of, and I'm not one to argue such a feeling (probably the strongest I've even felt my gut instincts)  and I've met & discovered great things & people through my studies but I'm still like... Why. Maybe there's further reasons I haven't discovered yet or maybe I'll meet someone or find something & it'll all make sense. If it's a thing I hope it's a food & it's really tasty. 

Mmm, food. I want more food. 

Anyway I've started to think through my hands which isn't good because my brain jumps around like a kangaroo on steroids and I go from many different things- they all link but then I have to explain it and it's long. 

Anyways see you later, or shall I say "auf Wiedersehen" ;-) 

Teehehehe

LG,

Dalanda xxx

YSL

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& you all know how much I love a good bit of tailoring. 

This is lovely...

White is just my favorite colour for clothing ever. Dresses, play suits, trousers and accessories like shoes & bags... With gold jewelry. Unnnfff!! ❤️

You can usually only wear a white dress once then you have to send it for dry cleaning but it's worth it. 

Gold is my fave for jewelry, because silver doesn't look good on me, so I don't like it xD

What colours do you like best? Do you have a favourite?

I also really like red, black, dark greens, burgundy etc...  

In the UK, Mother's Day was in March this year so we aren't celebrating it now, but the rest of the world is so happy birthday to you mothers out there & fathers that have to be mothers too to their children. Please don't forget our girls who's mothers don't get to see them this Mother's Day and they don't even know where they went. 

I'm not Nigerian, I'm not related to these girls directly, but they are all part of our race- the human race, and they are my sisters and friends of earth so join me in raising awareness & praying for their safe arrival, families & also their perpetrators so they realise that what they're doing is wrong and not what was intended to be. God teaches love & tolerance, not extremism & hate crimes. 

I'll keep you in my prayers tonight too, every single one of you. 

Love,

-Dalanda

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Mmmm. 

I teach the course...

#BringBackOurGirls

It's absolute tragedy that over 200 girls were abducted purely for trying to get an education. - literally matched out of their dormitories into lorries by armed gunmen. 

Mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters are shedding many tears

Stories like this absolutely break my heart, it could of been me, or your mother, sister, daughter, friend, partner, etc. 

Please do your bit to spread awareness & outrage so that the Nigerian government sees and does steps up the effort to find these ladies before they're sold off or abused & tortured even more as apparently, they're being sold off to men- hence the #RealMenDontBuyGirls campaign which you should also try & take a part in. 

Please keep these ladies and their families in your prayers, their hearts are shattered so send them your love and warmth from where you are and again, please spread the word. Every little helps and together, we'll make our voices heard.

It's shorts and T-shirt weather :-)

Be careful what you wish for, and never go after the wrong thing... If something's not totally right, you'll know, you'll feel it. Trust yourself. Don't do the wrong thing cause it's safe, and don't not go after something because you think you have told yourself you have zero chance without even trying, fate will find it's way if you do and if you feel for something strongly, it is your destiny. Don't take a back seat in your life anymore, pursue ALL your dreams, not just the seemingly more tangible and safe ones. 

Oops, I'm late...

"He who dares not grasp the thorn should never crave the rose."

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"Let me in sweet darling
envelop me completely
my senses scintillating
corpuscles palpitating
drown me with your magic potion
breathe me like a dragon
soak me with your moist emotion
lift my heart high
into the tranquil eye
of your whirling swirling hurricane
please
let me in sweet darling."

- Sri Gawn Tu Fahr

“The only way to find true happiness is to risk being completely cut open.”

- Charles Palahnuik

Portishead

Roads

"In this world there is room for everyone. And the good earth is rich and can provide for everyone. The way of life can be free and beautiful, but we have lost the way.

Greed has poisoned men's souls, has barricaded the world with hate, has goose-stepped us into misery and bloodshed. We have developed speed, but we have shut ourselves in. Machinery that gives abundance has left us in want. Our knowledge has made us cynical. Our cleverness, hard and unkind. We think too much and feel too little. More than machinery we need humanity.
More than cleverness we need kindness and gentleness. Without these qualities, life will be violent and all will be lost.

The aeroplane and the radio have brought us closer together. The very nature of these inventions cries out for the goodness in men, cries out for universal brotherhood, for the unity of us all... The misery that is now upon us is but the passing of greed — the bitterness of men who fear the way of human progress. The hate of men will pass, and dictators die, and the power they took from the people will return to the people and so long as men die, liberty will never perish.

Don't give yourselves to brutes — men who despise you — enslave you — who regiment your lives — tell you what to do — what to think or what to feel! Who drill you, diet you, treat you like cattle, use you as cannon fodder. Don't give yourselves to these unnatural men — machine men with machine minds and machine hearts! You are not machines! You are not cattle! You are men! You have the love of humanity in your hearts. You don't hate! Only the unloved hate — the unloved and the unnatural!

Don't fight for slavery! Fight for liberty! In the 17th Chapter of St. Luke it is written: "the Kingdom of God is within man" — not one man nor a group of men, but in all men! In you! You, the people have the power — the power to create machines. The power to create happiness! You, the people, have the power to make this life free and beautiful, to make this life a wonderful adventure.

Let us use that power! Let us all unite! Let us fight for a new world, a decent world that will give men a chance to work, that will give youth the future and old age a security. By the promise of these things, brutes have risen to power, but they lie! They do not fulfill their promise; they never will. Dictators free themselves, but they enslave the people! Now, let us fight to fulfill that promise! Let us fight to free the world, to do away with national barriers, to do away with greed, with hate and intolerance. Let us fight for a world of reason, a world where science and progress will lead to all men's happiness."

-Charlie Chaplain

IF you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!'

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
' Or walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch,
if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!


-Ruyard Kipling