Friendship or any close relationship for that matter is not only a commitment but also an unspoken agreement. Once you take the title of 'friend', you are effectively agreeing to be there for a person or at the very least just support them and not stab them in the back or knowingly cause them pain.
But what I don't understand is why some people decide to take the title of 'friend' (sometimes even more than that) and all the benefits that come with it, but yet they would sell you out in a hearbeat or are already using you or plotting your demise. What's worse are those that take everything and give nothing... not so much physically, for example, you can spend hours talking someone through their problems and supporting them but when it's your turn, they get bored after 5 minutes and change the topic to what's on TV. Or worse, those claim to be there for you when really they only want you for a certain thing.
This is why I'm reluctant to call most people my friends... I mean I have several aquiatances- those people I can say hi to or have a fun conversation with but I know I couldn't trust if something serious happened. It's all to do with how you define friendship though, and to be honest, I'd call my FRIEND friends what others might call their 'best friend', but I don't really believe in that too much. In my opinion one shouldn't be ranked... they should be judged on how they treat you and whether they're honest and you can trust them or not, it's not the case of me wanting to be super close with friends with everyone, but is it too much to ask that I'm sorrounded by people I can trust and people that will treat me how I treat them?
That's why I feel if you can count your friends on more than one hand, you've got a problem.
Or the easier (and most logical) option which I take is just don't tell everyone your problems, few are actually interested... Most are just nosey.
Be careful who you make your friend.
Beware of those with as the Africans would say have "White teeth, black heart..."
Till next time,
Love,
Dalanda xxx
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