Yes.
And although we all have different dreams, aspirations and ideas of happiness, I think the things that make our souls peaceful are the same for every single human being.
Happiness from a feeling of content. You mightn't have millions or be beautiful or have any of those ideals that the media tells us are ideals (which is all bs btw) but being GRATEFUL and happy for what you have is of far greater importance. The less you worry about the material, and live in the moment being happy with what you're blessed with no matter what, the more you'll be positive and attract more good things that will stay like peace, freedom, joy and the big things will take care of themselves.
This idea leads to my next point which will be mindset (lol this sounds like an essay but don't be fooled, I've not planned this xD it's from the heart like everything I share with you). In addition to what I said previously about being grateful, positive, not worrying all the time and living in the moment, one's mindset in the face of obstacles is also important. It's the decider on whether you are living in a state of numbness/sadness with that pain in your chest that you're either sadly living with or always trying to escape from or you're free, content, excited and going to bed at night with your soul at peace.
Escapism should NOT ever mean relief so things like sleeping, getting drunk, drugs, or anything that's there to distract you- even things that are seemingly harmless 'healthy distractions' are bad because they're are distractions and you're bypusying yourself with them instead of dealing with the problems you have. It just makes it worse. You'll wake up hurting even more because for a second, you thought you had it... You thought you were happy, really living life but then you're jolted back to your sad reality that you keep trying to run from instead of dealing with. What a sad vicious circle... It's extra sad because I think it's a cycle which everyone has lived to some degree in their life...
One of the worst thing you can do about your problems, pain etc is internalising & doing nothing. Trying and pretending these obstacles don't exist... 'conceal don't feel' (yep, I just made a frozen reference... And Olaf is the best thing ever) as you saw in the movie it doesn't work... It just isolates those around you, hurts those that love you, causes pain & leaves you alone in your metaphorical frozen, unclimbable castle where you won't know true happiness or realise that your pain can be made beautiful and the world can be beautiful once you turn those weaknesses into strengths and lessons. You can't depend on someone coming to open those doors for you nor should you wait for disaster till you realise what you're doing is wrong. If you never deal with your problems and you think 'I know what's wrong with me so that's enough' it's not. Likelihood is your views are skewing all of your perceptions so you might not even know what's wrong with you.
You must also realise that it's not working so far and it never will because your mind is what caused the problem in the first place so how will you fix it if with that same mind if you don't really step out of your comfort zone or if needed, get professional help? Sometimes an issue is fixed when you fix yourself, it's all about perspective. But if it runs deeper than that then a deeper change is needed you might need external help...
I think we all know what to do, we all posses that knowledge within us with our intuition. However many of you think you have none or it's broken when the reality is you ignore it and switch it off then say it is lost. The deeper you fall into negativity, the more you will shut off the positive things in your life- intuition being one of them. So you have to open up and just trust yourself.
Lastly... Well, what's a blogpost from Dalanda without a sprinkle of that sacred L word? :-D
Love is the thing that will send us to bed happy, content etc etc etc. Ironically, it's also the very thing that keeps people up at night and disturbs us. Why? Because people think love will save us and if you're hurt and fucked up, finding love will replace all those missing pieces and make you happy again. Now let me tell you something: codependency never helped anyone. "Love yourself, then love others." Love can be like a dream... Beautiful and fulfilling and you should never settle or listen to anyone that tells you love can't be all that beautiful. It is, it's a beautiful thing but my dear, the most beautiful thing of all is self love- not in an egotistical 'I'm great and the best, I'm amazing and everyone loves me' but in a genuine appreciation for being alive and accepting of your flaws making you, you and that being beautiful. No more picking yourself apart, especially when it's added to you then trying to compensate with ego... No one likes an arrogant prick and it's pretty sad when you see people doing the whole 'I'm so great' thing but you know that they're insecure deep down because if you're happy within yourself and about yourself you don't constantly have to prove yourself and show how 'awesome' you and your life is. People that do that are only trying to convince themselves.
If you have problems that you've not sorted, and you go into a relationship the love won't change it, it'll just be another one of those distractions I mentioned earlier... you'll start acting funny and it will fail. Or if you're co dependent and desperate for that healing love, you'll attract an opportunist that will use you because they know you 'need' them or you're lonely. You'll have given your everything in this dream all to have it thrown in your face. Slammed back into reality from this distraction.
Love will give you wings but it won't save you, you've got to save yourself and when you try, there'll be help around you if you need it or you can go it alone if you're willing to change yourself and your mind. In the end you are your own person, no matter whatever external factors there are, you are you and there's just one of you. Remember no one is unsalvagable and you can change your life, love yourself be dependent on yourself and be genuinely happy. You won't need distraction anymore because your mental state and the things in your life will make your reality better than your dreams. And when you're that happy and content, maybe you'll attract the right people as you're not desperate and wanting a release. Genuine people are hard to come by so if you meet them, keep them around and show them you appreciate them. And don't fear love if it does happen to you, it can be everything you've dreamed of if you go about it in the right way and you find the right person. Use your gut and make sure they're honest, genuine and will help lift you even higher and you can build each other by way of support, advice etc. That's real love.
But also remember you don't need that big love for that help and support it can come from yourself or anywhere and anyone- heck, I'm giving it to you nownow!
You need love to be happy but you don't need others. You need love of yourself and life because it is beautiful. Just open your eyes and be less jaded. A bad experience isn't a bad life. Don't torture yourself and let problems have a hold on you. You own your problems and you are in charge of your own life. Learn from your mistakes and don't do silly things and things that compromise your integrity etc. keep honest sincere ones around and keep your vibrations up. Stop running from things, stop distracting yourself and deal with your shit. Bite the bullet. Your biggest concern will be that you didn't do it earlier. Life it short... Don't realise that when it's too late. You have no idea how much joy could come if you'd just see that it's already there in you and you need to just grab it.
Perspective my dear, perspective.
I'm sending you lots of love and healing, I hope these words comfort you and make you realise that life is beautiful and so are you.
You've got this.
-Dalanda
Xoxoxo
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