Hey honey,

I hope you're well-fed, content & smiling wherever you are!

This is my first post of the year, so I guess I'd better make it a belated happy new year one. Please don't think I've forgotten about you, I haven't, I would never, I've just not been too good & I've got a few posts that I've written but decided later not to share... 

I guess with new year posts it's weird because you always wish people the same things right? Good health, happiness, good people etc and I wish those things for all of you on a daily basis so the new year isn't much of a change from that... I want everyone to be happy & have the courage to pursue their dreams and really realise that we are infinite and we can do anything we want. The only limits we have are those we impose upon ourselves and when we believe in ourselves and know we are supported by the universe and our own sheer will, everything falls into place. But of course this is easier said than done- espescially when we've all had nay-sayers and people telling us we're not good enough and we're making bad decisions, but fuck them. They live within limits, safety and caution and I bet you those people are either not happy with where they are, would benefit from you following their advise or they'd benefit from your demise (some all of the above, because there's sick people out there that just want to watch the world burn). 

It's up to you to always stay true to yourself, your heart and your intuition. Don't sell out, don't lose your integrity, stay respectful to yourself and your name... Be kind-to yourself and others. Think before you act- but not to the point where you do nothing, just check in with what you feel. You can't cut your head off from your heart, and you'll be doing yourself a great disservice if you do because you'll lose the true knowledge of whether something is right or not. If you follow your intuition on something that seems risky, you'll cash out big time, remember that. 

You're allowed to feel and hurt and learn from that pain, but know when the lesson is over and you need to let go and close the chapter. Don't hurt yourself by holding onto painful memories or people... Hold onto the lessons from them instead so you can grow, raise your vibrations and be happier instead of staying stuck in this haze of things that didn't work out... regrets, losses,  heartbreak, etc. If something doesn't work out, there always a reason behind it and if you'd pull yourself out of the sadness or victim mentality you'll see the bigger picture and the lesson that was there. Sometimes, you'll realise you really did dodge a bullet. Nothing teaches you more than pain and these painful experiences and lessons are never in vain... Don't ever forget that. Don't let the world turn you bitter. 

Find what you're running from, what you're drinking, smoking, swallowing, snorting yourself away from and face it. Resolve it. You don't have to hurt yourself, rip yourself apart or cry over it anymore. 

Don't be afraid of yourself... People run away from themselves doing anything they can to not be alone. It's not healthy to be co-dependent or need approval and/or other people all the time. You don't always have to be the 'life of the party', and the one everyone wants to hang around with because that shit is entirely superficial- sorry to say. But it's true, it's like being the popular kid in high school... you mould yourself as a people pleaser and get used by people as a bit of fun. In the process you get drained and lose sight of who you are. You don't need many people, you need the right ones, the genuine ones, the ones that you can have deep conversations with, the ones that don't have hidden angendas, the ones that have your back, and the ones that will be your friend and love you unconditionally. If you feel like you need to be 'fun' or a certain way or they won't like you, you're with the wrong people and you're being used. And remember, you have to allow yourself to be used, it doesn't just happen... People see opportunities and take it so keep your eyes open. You should never have to be someone you're not and navigate your way through life using masks... You should learn to become in tune with yourself be it through meditation, or walking or swimming or whatever method calls to you and understand yourself which you can also do by embracing yourself and doing things you love. If you hate yourself, make yourself into the best version of you for you. If you're running from yourself or anything, stop. Just deal with it and trust yourself, it's cliche but it's true- all the answers you seek are within you. And you're always guided, don't ignore the signs and warnings- there is no such thing as a coincidence my dear. Be your own best friend and care for yourself- you don't even need people, you can be alone... I know that, I enjoy being alone very much as well as being in the right company and it's not just because I'm an introvert. Be able to say with confidence I'll rather be alone than in bad company, entertaining people and being with people/in situations that don't uplift you will only make you sadder. 

Don't distract yourself, face yourself. 

Ugh, I totally just had a sneezing fit & lost my flow >.> 

Anyways, if it feels right do it... And do it with LOVE. :-) and if not, don't be afraid to say no and walk away. 

Watch your thoughts and feelings because that's what you are creating. Live in the present... like I said before, don't hurt yourself being lost in the past or anxious about the future. Take care of your present and the future takes care of itself and the past remains a lesson. And if you do it right, the past will be fond memories... 

Don't fear anymore! Take action, if you feel something isn't right in your life, change it. Don't settle for mediocrity, you're better than that and worth far more! You're really special, you're also very hot too. ;-) 

Lol, I think this is my cue to leave now...

Um, here's my New Years selfie for you which I did actually take on New Years because I've done it every year (well, since last year, but I won't tell if you don't ;-D)

I wish you health, success, abundance and COURAGE. 

Love always,

-Dalanda 

X

P.S- I love this message about time, I'd recommend you check it out. :-)

https://johnsmallman2.wordpress.com/2015/01/01/within-the-illusion-nothing-is-constant/