It is indeed about bubbles.
But not the kind you play with as a child, it is unfortunately much more sinister than that. It's about the bubbles you create yourself... In your mind and in reality and I want to help you and hand you this post... Consider it a needle so you can burst that bubble and land on soft ground before it ends up being popped for you and you land on the rocks, or you land in water and it drowns you... I sense some of you might already be swimming.
It sounds like I'm being melodramatic here but it's so much deeper than you think and allow me to explain.
Some people live in bubbles, floating away merrily in fragile and blissful ignorance ignoring the responsibilities of life and the things they need to work on within themselves outside this, as a result... No lessons are learnt, the wrong people are let in that bubble and as with any enclosed space it gets claustrophobic or it strains and eventually falls to pieces.
Let me give you an example of a bubble that many of us live in now: we feel we don't necessarily have to say donate to charity, or help homeless people because it doesn't effect us directly. We go back to our warm beds and hot meals and can ignore the state of the world around us, not knowing that that could easily be us and maybe one day might be, or our parents, our brothers and sisters. We continue not to speak out about exploitation, equal rights, equal representation, unjust wars because it's not our children they are killing, it's not our rights they are taking and other people will talk. Eventually it comes back to us, our home lands are attacked (I don't want to be controversial so just think of some examples yourself) then you realise it's a problem. When it's too late.
Or a better example closer to home that I have seen time again and I know for a fact you would have seen or are maybe even living (if so, this one's for you) and that's the bubbles people build with money or status. For me those are some of the worse kinds because as human beings they don't grow, they are just immature as hell and under the illusion that they can buy everything, get everything on a silver platter and if not throw a massive fit, or manipulate till they get what it is they want. When you have money, you can get pretty much what you want but only on a superficial and hedonistic level. Because as you know there are things money cannot buy like patience, kindness, true friends and you simply can't go about you life thinking you can throw money at problems because you can get what you want and you like a challenge. You can't be so out of touch. You will definitely hurt people. Badly... I know. And maybe, if you have a heart, you will hurt yourself too because if you take a step back, you will realise that you have nothing true left and you gambled away the good or real things in your life. Or you hurt those innocent or kind people just for the sake of the conquest or what you wanted and they're still hurting whilst you've already forgotten about what you gained from them. However they're living with the scars that you turned you back on because you didn't want to see the damage you caused by ripping through people like a tornado leaving devastation behind. You know, maybe if you went after the real things instead of cheap thrills, and you popped this bubble you're living in you might realise you don't need half as much as you thought you did because what you were missing can't be bought? This small satisfaction your seeking is actually a bigger internal struggle and if you think you can get it with money or status you are wrong. You will get it with honesty, maturity and being a good person. If you got it with those things no one would be rich and/or famous because they'd stop after the first conquest. But no, they want more, more, more and in seeking for it lost themselves.
Just start trying to mature and grow, with doing things like acknowledging people's feelings, knowing you can't always get your way, being kind... Not making a show of it or doing it to feel like a saviour or to help the poor ones. Just to show some humanity- you know... That thing you traded when you decided to turn away from your heart and the last bits of goodness inside of you?
You know, you also attract the wrong people when you live an overly ostentatious lifestyle. A lot of people are rich because they are greedy and so they will always want more. They will tell you what you want to hear, show you what you want as long as the price is right for them and they benefit. That's how for example one of my, if not my most favourite musicians Michael Jackson died. He was famous from when he was a child and lived in this fame/wealth bubble... he was able to create his own world because he had so much money, things and people were replaceable as with pretty much most people in the public eye... He had feelings, but he had money too and that attracted all the wrong people. He was able to buy drugs he shouldn't have even owned or been allowed to take and no one around him said anything because they were scared of being replaced or he would shut them down and kick them out of this bubble he had made. I'm sure he was only trying to numb the pain, the stress of the life he was somewhat forced deeply in to by those people that just wanted his money and made him do fucktons more shows than he was meant to knowing he was a perfectionist and it was exhausting for him. He just wanted rest, he just needed real people- hence he liked children because they didn't lie or want anything like adults and were honest but of course it was too late. He had built his bubble and it burst in the sea and led to his quiet death.
He was a good man, he just needed help, maturity, and to listen and act on the right people around him. To learn that life is about more than checking goals off of a list, seeing people as functional and paying your way round everything. If you bribe people to help you, they don't want what is best for you. They want to stroke your ego because it's what you want. Status breeds narcissism and it's one of the worst character flaws which needs serious help. The right people came, but he just shut them down because they didn't say what he wanted to hear. It's hard when you're used to his life but necessary because what you want to hear isn't always what you're told and not what you'd like. Particularly with narcissism or ego problems which need professional help and importantly a willingness to get better in themselves.
I find the situation with MJ extra sad because he was so lonely too. I was even looking at interviews with his ex wife Lisa-Marie after he died and she realised he was the only one that truly loved her and she loved him dearly too but he just didn't have the right mindset because of his bubble, he was too immature and didn't want to be told the kind of stuff I'm saying now for example or if he knew he didn't want to act on it because he was comfortable and used to his life so it led to his demise. As it would anyone living in a land of dreams. He couldn't even have the love of his life because he couldn't get it right. He didn't understand about his bubble and that he needed to pop it and grow some maturity and understand his flaws and how the world works. That's the problem with having things handed to you in life, laziness become ingrained, temptation to go to the familiar slips back and you never grow. You become childish, play games, push the right and special people away or treat them like shit so they leave and you never get anything deep and meaningful in life. Your mindset that you're unwilling to change fucks it all up. They complain about fake people but the people around you are a reflection of who you are. Take a look at what you're giving out to the world instead of pointing fingers. Don't ask why things happen, ask why you allowed for it to happen and what you did to attract certain situations.
There's good people deep down everywhere in everyone... Even bankers, dictators, politicians.... all complex characters are human. And people can change but as Dave Wong said you must remember there are two ways to dehumanize someone: by dismissing them, and by idolizing them. You dismiss people by using them or playing games... You unfairly strip them of humanity, you cut them deeply. You idolise people, you make them into something they are not even though they are human they're made into a demi-god. In turn you treat and make them into something they are not and the weak of mind try and transform themselves into this image too but no. It's not real, and you can never be that way.
Just keep it real with yourself and others, keep your feet on the ground. Have a good look at real life and at yours. Get your head out of your arse if you need to.
Don't end up like another failure because you must understand my dear that you fail if the only thing you conquer in this life is the material world. Why? Because that's piss easy, all you need to do is surrender your soul.
Analyse your life, really look at it. Look at where you have destructive behaviour, you've created bubbles or if your whole life is a bubble and begin to bring yourself back to reality. It's hard but if you don't you'll never know true happiness and I know for a fact that that's what anyone really craves for, not checking conquests of people, and things off of a list. It's about growing.
Remember, you can live in a bubble where you think everyone is good and that will hurt you too because you've got those people in the negative bubbles that will use you, or if you're negative you'll attract them because like attracts like so really be careful.
Work on yourself and maybe get proper professional help because if you've lived in a bubble which we almost all have at some point to some degree, there may be more than meets the eye that needs assistance and with a professional you will be guided better and more motivated. But first you must truly want it because only you can change yourself. You must be willing to cut off from the toxic ones unwilling to change and stunting your growth. You must grow the parts of yourself that live in entitlement or negativity and be willing to. Then you will know true peace, then you can amend your past and have a real future based on real things and real people. Then you will be a real man or woman. Then you can finally be proud of what you have achieved in life because it's legitimate and it serves you and humanity in the right ways.
Please listen, please change, please don't hurt people and trample them anymore. You'll push them too far or set them on a dark path and if you're going down and that's your choice, but don't bring good people with good intentions down with you. And be truly unselfish and kind but remember that the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
Take care and I hope you listen to my message, and all the other ones I've shared. I pray you have read it and you will act on it because ignorance is one of the most dangerous things.
I know you all know right from wrong, so do it. We are all human.
-Dalanda
Xoxo
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