I'm so tired of seeing all these 'thigh gaps are the best' pictures and 'thinspirations' it's not healthy and it's like it's targeting girls with bigger thighs to feel bad about themselves. 

 Thigh gaps are not an indication of thinness. 

You cannot change the structure of your skeleton very easily (and it would be painful if you could. For example: child birth)

Some people are naturally able to have a thigh gap at a certain size, but that doesn’t automatically mean that you have to very thin. People who are at different sizes can have them but can every fit/thin person have one? No

The second reason for why you probably won’t get one is because of your legs. If you knees go inwards, it'll be very hard for you to get a thigh gap. 

Weight is by no means everything and its sad that some people make others feel crappy about their bodies by posting shit like this ont tumblr:

Seriously???

Why can't they make posts about self acceptance with strong positive messages like gaga 'born this way'?

-D x

Extra bit. 

This story and all of the thinspo thin thigh, zero tummy fat stuff I have seen inspired me to write this post -the story is below. 

So...

I went into American Apparel and if you've been there before you'll know they only employ really thin hipster looking people. I picked up a dress in a small and a woman that was working there and happened to have the same dress on looked me up and down and was like, do you want me to see if we have that in a medium for you? I could have really insulted her at how much of a jerk she was but instead I smiled and said no, my dress size is an 8 and my waist is a 6 and she was like really??? all sarcastically. I was like yeah... It's called having a shape and walked off. As much as I would have liked to have more words with her, I decided its best to just ignore her as she's shallow and stupid. 

I went to go try the dress on and it fit me really well and the other woman working in the shop was like oh that looks so good on you!!! And the stupid bitch walked passed like hmm, so it fit? And the other employee was like awh yeah, I mean this dress is perfect for people with shapes like hers and raised her eyebrows at the jerk wearing on the same one (it looked shitty on her), le jerk gave her a really dirty look and walked off. I spoke to the kinder employee...turns out that le jerk is the manager and she's always like that. -face desk-

What if I was fragile and really insecure and she said that to me? Aren't things like that what inspire people to cut or get depressed? Are these not the kind of things that inspire self loathing?? 

I mean don't get me wrong, I do not at all think I have a great body, nor do I think I'm perfect and I look great, in fact far from it and I don't really like people looking at me and judging my body- positively or negatively. But what I do know is hating myself won't make me beautiful so I just have to accept that these are the cards I've been dealt. I have a small frame but I'm not really skinny like the girl in the picture above its just how it is. If I was really thin like what you see in magazines I probably wouldn't be happy because it won't be natural. 

Weight is a very controversial topic and yet its so irrelevant people should learn to just focus on being fit & healthy, not losing weight to be thin. I personally hate talking about weight/bodies particularly my own and yet it's something we're tormented with everyday whenever we see an ad with an airbrushed model prancing about in her underwear or a skin tight dress. Why can't we just judge people on who they are and not what they are? If you don't find people that aren't thin attractive, fine don't date them vice versa, you don't need to spread your hatred and if you judge someone on something as superficial as weight or skin colour, oreintation etc you are missing out on meeting a great person and making a great friend. 

Most insecurities start with something someone has said. Just spread love, it's not hard. 

Love,

-your friend Dalanda. X