"Withholding is a subtle form of psychological abuse. If you inflict this on someone who suffers from abandonment issues, the pain felt will always be a ten on a scale from one to ten. People with matching psychological patterns tend to find each other, so that a person with abandonment issues finds a withholder. The circle is vicious but serves a purpose: pain sometimes reaches 11, cracks us open and helps us break the pattern."

- Lisa Fridebourg Lloyd