Madly in love with this illamasqua lipgloss! 

From a young age I learnt people can be nasty. 

I learnt people don't always tell the truth. 

I learnt that the world is a lonely place where the only person you can count on is you, but even then you can let yourself down. But at least you can learn and build yourself up, and you've no one to blame...

And from this I learned most importantly  that just because someone is close to you or should have your best interests at heart, doesn't mean they will and you should never for a second think that anyone owes you anything. 

Hopefully you aren't in the position where you have to fight independently or you are with toxic people but perhaps one day you might be. Or maybe you are already in this situation and you either don't or refuse to see it. Open your eyes... Put up a fight for all that matters to you. Stop listening to the 'good advice' being given to you about what's best for you and start listening to you heart. Your beautiful, pure heart and intuition that you we as humans often neglect... 

You know what you want and what's best for you. You can feel it, and even those closest to you are different people too, you might think similarly but you're ultimately different people with different kinds, needs, hopes, desires and dreams. And you should never go against what you deeply feel is right for the sake of someone else because at the end of the day you suffer. And as a Chinese proverb says (paraphrasing here) 'the one that says it's impossible should get out of the way of the one that's doing it' or something along those lines... I'm sure you know what I mean. :-)

Sometimes things may seem crazy, or a risk, but if it scares you, good. It means that you care... If it feels good and your heart, intuition is giving you the thumbs up and the only doubts and negativity are those you've created, then do it because my dear, if you wait for the storm to pass, you'll never get anywhere... 

No one wants a life of regret, pain and failure (you're a failure by default if you've never tried). 

If there are changes to make or something that's burning you that you need to resolve, seek, get or whatever, maybe it popped into your head as you were reading this... Take it as a sign to go and do it! Or cut lose from toxicity or someone's hold on you. You have the thumbs up. Stand your ground and don't let others mould you, bring you down or stop you from getting your dreams just because they're too scared to pursue theirs or they aren't brave enough to believe in them. 

If you don't believe in yourself, who will? Everyone can drop you or let you down anyways. Be strong enough not to need anyone. 

People can lie, cheat, or even just disappear and leave you one day out of the blue with no word. Or pass away. 

Mourn an absence but don't be left broken. There's no such thing as coincidence and everything happens for a reason. Fate is real, don't run from it. 

 Life is fleeting, but so is pain. Happiness is your own choice. 

Choose to be happy, honest and kind. Like the kind of person you needed when everything and/or yourself was falling apart. 

And if you are going to be there for someone and you say you'll never let them down, mean it. For the sake of your integrity and their sanity... No one likes to be hurt or lonely. It means a lot when you're there for someone. 

Choose happiness, kindness and love. Always. :-)

Love you!!

-Dalanda :-)

xxxxxx

When I 'borrowed' my mum's necklace... She should have let me keep it, it looks nice, right?

(Excuse the visible lack of sleep)

Sometimes...

Not all poems have to be overly, sad, happy or lovey dovey! 

This is a poem about hope. And the thrill of hope is something we all live for. 

Remember: Hope for the best, be mindful of the worst & don't hold back. Life's too short for that. 

Don't just hope for what you want though, go out and get it, work for it, chase it... Live it. Live your dreams, no matter how big or small they may seem. 

Bless you all, I love you lots & I'm sending you all the best.

-Dalanda

Xoxo

Some interesting, beautiful things I stumbled across today...

Or he could be off to Istampul...

So for those of you that didn't witness my annoyance in real life (or on snapchat). 

There was a winter ball/meal at a 5* hotel I was attending and despite getting express delivery, my dress didn't arrive on time. I can't even. I was at the ball with a plain black dress. T_T

In fact, it's annoyed me so much, around Christmas time when I was out shopping I bought myself a full length ball gown for the Summer balls that should be happening, or next years' balls. But knowing me, I'll probably end up buying a new dress for that too... Gah. I love clothes and shoes too much. 

This is the dress I was going to wear, but then again it's a bit loose on my waist so maybe it's a blessing in disguise because now I can get it taken in at the waist if I so choose. I mean, the fit isn't that bad but if it's a dress, unless it's intentionally loose I like it to fit properly or it makes me look kinda fat or bigger than I am-as with any garment that's fitted but too big. 

Because of my body proportions, clothes don't normally fit me right and I have to get them bigger which makes them fit in some areas and baggy in others. So when I'm in a dress, it has to fit properly to make up for all the baggy times xD (it makes sense to me). I get the same problems with dresses but just not as bad so I can't complain...

I wish you many success in picking the right fashion choices for yourself. May you always look good and have a nice hairdo. :-D lolol

Love, light & warm hugs,

-Dalanda

Xoxo

Hey honey,

I hope you're well-fed, content & smiling wherever you are!

This is my first post of the year, so I guess I'd better make it a belated happy new year one. Please don't think I've forgotten about you, I haven't, I would never, I've just not been too good & I've got a few posts that I've written but decided later not to share... 

I guess with new year posts it's weird because you always wish people the same things right? Good health, happiness, good people etc and I wish those things for all of you on a daily basis so the new year isn't much of a change from that... I want everyone to be happy & have the courage to pursue their dreams and really realise that we are infinite and we can do anything we want. The only limits we have are those we impose upon ourselves and when we believe in ourselves and know we are supported by the universe and our own sheer will, everything falls into place. But of course this is easier said than done- espescially when we've all had nay-sayers and people telling us we're not good enough and we're making bad decisions, but fuck them. They live within limits, safety and caution and I bet you those people are either not happy with where they are, would benefit from you following their advise or they'd benefit from your demise (some all of the above, because there's sick people out there that just want to watch the world burn). 

It's up to you to always stay true to yourself, your heart and your intuition. Don't sell out, don't lose your integrity, stay respectful to yourself and your name... Be kind-to yourself and others. Think before you act- but not to the point where you do nothing, just check in with what you feel. You can't cut your head off from your heart, and you'll be doing yourself a great disservice if you do because you'll lose the true knowledge of whether something is right or not. If you follow your intuition on something that seems risky, you'll cash out big time, remember that. 

You're allowed to feel and hurt and learn from that pain, but know when the lesson is over and you need to let go and close the chapter. Don't hurt yourself by holding onto painful memories or people... Hold onto the lessons from them instead so you can grow, raise your vibrations and be happier instead of staying stuck in this haze of things that didn't work out... regrets, losses,  heartbreak, etc. If something doesn't work out, there always a reason behind it and if you'd pull yourself out of the sadness or victim mentality you'll see the bigger picture and the lesson that was there. Sometimes, you'll realise you really did dodge a bullet. Nothing teaches you more than pain and these painful experiences and lessons are never in vain... Don't ever forget that. Don't let the world turn you bitter. 

Find what you're running from, what you're drinking, smoking, swallowing, snorting yourself away from and face it. Resolve it. You don't have to hurt yourself, rip yourself apart or cry over it anymore. 

Don't be afraid of yourself... People run away from themselves doing anything they can to not be alone. It's not healthy to be co-dependent or need approval and/or other people all the time. You don't always have to be the 'life of the party', and the one everyone wants to hang around with because that shit is entirely superficial- sorry to say. But it's true, it's like being the popular kid in high school... you mould yourself as a people pleaser and get used by people as a bit of fun. In the process you get drained and lose sight of who you are. You don't need many people, you need the right ones, the genuine ones, the ones that you can have deep conversations with, the ones that don't have hidden angendas, the ones that have your back, and the ones that will be your friend and love you unconditionally. If you feel like you need to be 'fun' or a certain way or they won't like you, you're with the wrong people and you're being used. And remember, you have to allow yourself to be used, it doesn't just happen... People see opportunities and take it so keep your eyes open. You should never have to be someone you're not and navigate your way through life using masks... You should learn to become in tune with yourself be it through meditation, or walking or swimming or whatever method calls to you and understand yourself which you can also do by embracing yourself and doing things you love. If you hate yourself, make yourself into the best version of you for you. If you're running from yourself or anything, stop. Just deal with it and trust yourself, it's cliche but it's true- all the answers you seek are within you. And you're always guided, don't ignore the signs and warnings- there is no such thing as a coincidence my dear. Be your own best friend and care for yourself- you don't even need people, you can be alone... I know that, I enjoy being alone very much as well as being in the right company and it's not just because I'm an introvert. Be able to say with confidence I'll rather be alone than in bad company, entertaining people and being with people/in situations that don't uplift you will only make you sadder. 

Don't distract yourself, face yourself. 

Ugh, I totally just had a sneezing fit & lost my flow >.> 

Anyways, if it feels right do it... And do it with LOVE. :-) and if not, don't be afraid to say no and walk away. 

Watch your thoughts and feelings because that's what you are creating. Live in the present... like I said before, don't hurt yourself being lost in the past or anxious about the future. Take care of your present and the future takes care of itself and the past remains a lesson. And if you do it right, the past will be fond memories... 

Don't fear anymore! Take action, if you feel something isn't right in your life, change it. Don't settle for mediocrity, you're better than that and worth far more! You're really special, you're also very hot too. ;-) 

Lol, I think this is my cue to leave now...

Um, here's my New Years selfie for you which I did actually take on New Years because I've done it every year (well, since last year, but I won't tell if you don't ;-D)

I wish you health, success, abundance and COURAGE. 

Love always,

-Dalanda 

X

P.S- I love this message about time, I'd recommend you check it out. :-)

https://johnsmallman2.wordpress.com/2015/01/01/within-the-illusion-nothing-is-constant/