And they wonder... Why aren't girls more beautiful? Why are they not confident? Why so insecure? You gotta lift up the women you care about in your life because the world isn't going to, the world will push her down to make money out of her insecurities they've shone a light on... The world tells they they're ugly. 

My dear, you're beautiful. 

Love & light,

-Dalanda 

X

Because to her, every single breath felt like a mistake.

Be there for that person who's sad, who's heart is breaking, and who doesn't and perhaps never gets enough love. You can be kind, do nice gestures, or you can extend the hand of friendship. Don't stand there watching someone until it's too late. If you're moved, it's because you're meant to do something. Choose kindness. 

All my love as always :-)

-Dalanda 

Some wisdom for today!

Hope it goes well!

I have an exam today ugh and I just fell down half a flight of stairs so today is going well hahaha! Send me good vibes! Pray for me!!!! :-0 I'm so scared xD it'll be over in a few hours though. 

Take care and relax

All my love,

Dalanda 

Xoxo

:-)

Whenever You Breathe Out, I Breathe In (Positive/Negative)

Hey, haven't seen you around in a while 

I didn't go to work for a month

I didn't leave my bed for eight days straight

I haven't hung out with anyone

'Cause if I did, I'd have nothing to say

I didn't feel angry or depressed

I didn't feel anything at all

I didn't want to go to bed

And I didn't want to stay up late

When youre living your life, well, that's the price you pay

Whenever I breath out, you're breathing it in

Whenever I speak out, you're speaking out

I didn't go to work for a month

I didn't leave my bed for eight days straight

I haven't hung out with anyone

'Cause if I did, I'd have nothing to say



Modest Mouse 

Praying. 

I think it's really important everyone reads this post here... It's amazing how we don't even realise sometimes when we have turned into machines and we are working to go after something that we might think we want but we don't truly need... Or even want in hindsight. Put some perspective unto your 'dreams'. 

The post is on this link HERE

Take care,

Love you

-Dalanda 

X

Last night I realized what is the problem - there is no problem:
Men always win at life
That is what I found out
Or was forced to admit
You have to look at their hands
Not at their mind
Cause it's not very sharp
Look at the lines on their face
Look at the way posture strikes sometimes
as they walk into a room
Like cats
they always fall on their feet
They keep up with that charm
even when they rob a bank;
especially if they rob a bank
they have something called charisma
Which is fluent
even when they deceit.
In fact, they always deceit
because they know they will be forgiven.
They always smile
because they know the world is made of train stations
and it's easy to jump into another story
once this one is done.
Men always come clean
and with age, they come across
more and more train stations
let's call them opportunities
because life had a strange way to present men and women with growing in reverse;
and we were taught to leave in order to gain presence;
we were taught we are disposable
and equipped with liquids, minerals and gold to preserve our fading beauty
because our charm is our only fluence
and it's a language with an expiration date;
men always win at life
it's always been like this;
Unlike women, for whom deceit is a stain
presence is an ephemere stage
and balance
Balance is the runway where we jog hopeful to misguide age.
But men always win at life
Because they have to make us laugh
make us fall
head over high heels
and they do
even when they deceit. 

- Ioana Cristina Casapu

Watercolour by Michela Poggioli

Wish you were here

So, so you think you can tell

Heaven from Hell

Blue skies from pain

Can you tell a green field

From a cold steel rail?

A smile from a veil?

Do you think you can tell?

Did they get you to trade

Your heroes for ghosts?

Hot ashes for trees?

Hot air for a cool breeze?

Cold comfort for change?

And did you exchange

A walk on part in a war

For a lead role in a cage?

How I wish, how I wish you were here

We're just two lost souls

Swimming in a fish bowl

Year after year

Running over the same old ground

What have we found?

The same old fears

Wish you were here

Mad girl's love song

"I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead;
I lift my lids and all is born again.
(I think I made you up inside my head.)

The stars go waltzing out in blue and red,
And arbitrary blackness gallops in:
I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead.

I dreamed that you bewitched me into bed
And sung me moon-struck, kissed me quite insane.
(I think I made you up inside my head.)

God topples from the sky, hell's fires fade:
Exit seraphim and Satan's men:
I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead.

I fancied you'd return the way you said,
But I grow old and I forget your name.
(I think I made you up inside my head.)

I should have loved a thunderbird instead;
At least when spring comes they roar back again.
I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead.
(I think I made you up inside my head.)"

- Sylvia Plath

We're lost... And we won't allow ourselves to find ourselves or one another... I guess it's easy to lose yourself in your pain...

It's so hard, but one must remember:

Love, passion, willingness, time, words, effort will simply never be enough and it will never work on those that just wish to sleep and not face the real world or their problems, even if it will give them what their soul truly desires. No matter how much you try to guide & hurt over how lost or how wrongly they're doing things & their possible effect on you, they will only arise when they wish to. Maybe today, maybe in a few weeks, months and unfortunately maybe never. It's not in your hands. It's like if you really care about someone and want to give up an unhealthy & damaging habit like smoking... You can cry, give them info about how bad it is, stage an intervention etc but you can't pull the cigarette from their lips. You have to stand back, watch them coughing and getting ill because of itheir poor choices till they decide to change, and they may never change and you might just always hurt because of it. Unfortunately, that's life... Free will is a double edged sword my dear and you can't change people, you can only guide and change yourself. I know I said it's easy to lose yourself I'm your pain but try not to, try to stop yourself because you don't want to go down there.

Take care of yourself,

Love you lots!

-Dalanda

I'm somewhat ashamed at how much I laughed at this xD

Enjoy!

-Dalanda :-)

Xoxo

Throwback Thursday

This is the exact face I started the year with. The face from when I was in a cold train station waiting in the middle of nowhere after spending midnight on a train. But that's another story which I won't go into right now, or ever because it's not important...

It seems like this is my theme for the year, disappointment due to arseholes. Meh, it's been the theme most years but this year in particular. However I am not sharing this for you to pity me, or jump to conclusions about me. I'm posting this as a reminder of either of these two things (possibly both) - don't be a fucking arsehole, period. You affect people negatively and if you're not happy that doesn't mean you should rob others from their chance to be happy too. If you're the one on the receiving end remember you'll survive the arseholes- hurt, wounded, maybe a little scarred but alive. Wounds do get better... But only if you let them. 

Eventually when you decide to ground yourself in life you'll get it. It'll make more sense, all of it and also some things that I've said or bits of advice I've offered will come in handy and/or begin to click. You can figure out yourself and what you want or your soul needs from life instead of this uncertainty many feel... Just start to make proper goals, real ones that will fulfil your soul and not hinder it or keep it stagnant. Often people get confused and make similar goals to what they usually do & remain unhappy.

The best goals are those for yourself, your heart and the betterment of yourself and others. If your goals are purely rooted in this world and acquiring things I'm afraid you've misunderstood what the real meaning and purpose of life is meant to be and you'll remain confused and uncertain til you realise that. It's a broad but true statement because life is about growth and lessons as a human and a soul... If you don't expand mentally and spiritually and stay in the same line and way of thinking you were born with you won't learn much. Also, it's not likely you'll be happy but if you are lucky maybe you will be comfortable at best because ignorance is bliss. 

Vital things like empathy aren't natural for some people and so must be taught or learned and if you don't leave the same people that never had empathy for you to even learn from, you'll never grow. 

My point is you always need to push yourself to grow as a person not as a social hierarchical or numerical figure because money isn't the real meaning of life or we would all be born with money in our hands. We need each other and our own strength to survive. Everything else is a bonus and is not really real because the only true thing on this planet is our bond with one another. 

Once again: don't be an arsehole. 

Love you lots,

-Dalanda x

Don't turn your back on yourself and those dear to your heart. I felt guided to share some of these so I hope they resonate with you or someone you can pass the info on to on some level- as is with everything I post. 

Hopefully it helps, I wish I could do more for everyone but all I can do is guide... I can't force you to be a better version or the best possible version of yourself. Only you can do that if/when you decide you're tired of the way life is now and you want more, or maybe when you realise that the yearning deep within you can't be sated by anything you can buy or earn. Or maybe even when you learn to stop trying to convince yourself that feelings are irrational and you can go on being a zombie, living in a jaded haze (as I mentioned before in a previous post- again I'll write more on this when I'm less busy) neglecting wherever or whatever your gut tells you.

It's dangerous. We all want to numb the pain but the only way we can do it is by dealing with it head on and that's it. I think it's pretty safe to say that we are most scared of the things that have already happened to us so I guess that should give us courage, we have felt it, suffered it and survived and we can do it better next time. Our pain will make us stronger, and wiser. Refuse to be a victim, be a victor. Life will hit you and you must jump back and learn how to duck from the blows better next time. (You can tell its past five in the morning when the analogies come out, lol)

Take baby steps, heck crawl if you need to! Just don't do nothing. Your dreams are waiting for you, life is waiting, reality is waiting. There are lessons to be learned, so let the light side of you out to play! Don't stay in the dark or try and glamourise the negativity in the world or inner turmoil. Fix it instead, it's no fun in the dark... That's were all the pain is. The thing you so desperately want to hide from and avoid, so how do you expect to feel good if you're waiting to do so through dancing in the dark?

Take care,

-Dalanda 

Xoxo

Sorry! Still busy and all over the place but I guess there must be a reason, the post will come at the right time... For you. :-) 

In the time being, I'm being mischievous :-P ... 

The hat huhahaha. Cheers Ama!

And here's a cute picture for you to enjoy before I get all serious again xD

And a friendly reminder. 

Spread love, grow up, learn, mature and don't destroy people. Only seek to build them up and assist, NOT conquer and use. Feelings run deeper than you think... Both positive and negative.  Words, actions and thoughts are very powerful. Use them wisely and don't forget the law of karma when you act. Time and tide waits for no man...

Take care and be good!

Love always,

-Dalanda 

X

Sorry I haven't written that I promised post, I didn't forget- I was with this little man :-) 

He loves me :3

Sorry! I mean I'm sure you weren't holding your breath but I said I would do it today and I didn't and I don't like to be inconsistent or rude... I'm just not with my laptop now. 

Take care of yourself: eat properly, sleep well, and don't drink too much- or do anything bad for you in excess. You need to try and stay healthy because there is so much int the world to enjoy If there is not many now, there willI be in the future providing you take care of yourself in this present... I am sending you lots of love, hugs, happiness & rainbow glittering clouds that float you towards all the most beautiful dreams you have. 

Keep me in your thoughts, I'm still under a lot of pressure! Thank you, I hope you're having fun :-)

-Dalanda 

“Beware of Destination Addiction—a preoccupation with the idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job, or with the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are.” —Lauren Britt

If you keep seeking for things that you simply can't quantify or buy, you'll seek forever. If you spend your life just seeking it will pass you buy. There is more to life than fulfilling agendas... Sometimes, just be & follow your heart & your gut instead of your ego. 

Don't let yourself fall into this, you will if your head remains satisfied but your heart is left starved. 

 

Don't let yourself be too busy to make time for what truly matters. Allow yourself to grow...

Love always,

-Dalanda 

X

Bubbles...

I've got a very important message for you. I really must get this out to you and I hope you understand. 

It is indeed about bubbles.

But not the kind you play with as a child, it is unfortunately much more sinister than that. It's about the bubbles you create yourself... In your mind and in reality and I want to help you and hand you this post... Consider it a needle so you can burst that bubble and land on soft ground before it ends up being popped for you and you land on the rocks, or you land in water and it drowns you... I sense some of you might already be swimming. 

It sounds like I'm being melodramatic here but it's so much deeper than you think and allow me to explain. 

Some people live in bubbles, floating away merrily in fragile and blissful ignorance ignoring the responsibilities of life and the things they need to work on within themselves outside this, as a result... No lessons are learnt, the wrong people are let in that bubble and as with any enclosed space it gets claustrophobic or it strains and eventually falls to pieces. 

Let me give you an example of a bubble that many of us live in now: we feel we don't necessarily have to say donate to charity, or help homeless people because it doesn't effect us directly. We go back to our warm beds and hot meals and can ignore the state of the world around us, not knowing that that could easily be us and maybe one day might be, or our parents, our brothers and sisters. We continue not to speak out about exploitation, equal rights, equal representation, unjust wars because it's not our children they are killing, it's not our rights they are taking and other people will talk. Eventually it comes back to us, our home lands are attacked (I don't want to be controversial so just think of some examples yourself) then you realise it's a problem. When it's too late. 

Or a better example closer to home that I have seen time again and I know for a fact you would have seen or are maybe even living (if so, this one's for you) and that's the bubbles people build with money or status. For me those are some of the worse kinds because as human beings they don't grow, they are just immature as hell and under the illusion that they can buy everything, get everything on a silver platter and if not throw a massive fit, or manipulate till they get what it is they want. When you have money, you can get pretty much what you want but only on a superficial and hedonistic level. Because as you know there are things money cannot buy like patience, kindness, true friends and you simply can't go about you life thinking you can throw money at problems because you can get what you want and you like a challenge. You can't be so out of touch. You will definitely hurt people. Badly... I know. And maybe, if you have a heart, you will hurt yourself too because if you take a step back, you will realise that you have nothing true left and you gambled away the good or real things in your life. Or you hurt those innocent or kind people just for the sake of the conquest or what you wanted and they're still hurting whilst you've already forgotten about what you gained from them. However they're living with the scars that you turned you back on because you didn't want to see the damage you caused by ripping through people like a tornado leaving devastation behind. You know, maybe if you went after the real things instead of cheap thrills, and you popped this bubble you're living in you might realise you don't need half as much as you thought you did because what you were missing can't be bought? This small satisfaction your seeking is actually a bigger internal struggle and if you think you can get it with money or status you are wrong. You will get it with honesty, maturity and being a good person. If you got it with those things no one would be rich and/or famous because they'd stop after the first conquest. But no, they want more, more, more and in seeking for it lost themselves. 

Just start trying to mature and grow, with doing things like acknowledging people's feelings, knowing you can't always get your way, being kind... Not making a show of it or doing it to feel like a saviour or to help the poor ones. Just to show some humanity- you know... That thing you traded when you decided to turn away from your heart and the last bits of goodness inside of you?

You know, you also attract the wrong people when you live an overly ostentatious lifestyle. A lot of people are rich because they are greedy and so they will always want more. They will tell you what you want to hear, show you what you want as long as the price is right for them and they benefit. That's how for example one of my, if not my most favourite musicians Michael Jackson died. He was famous from when he was a child and lived in this fame/wealth bubble... he was able to create his own world because he had so much money, things and people were replaceable as with pretty much most people in the public eye... He had feelings, but he had money too and that attracted all the wrong people. He was able to buy drugs he shouldn't have even owned or been allowed to take and no one around him said anything because they were scared of being replaced or he would shut them down and kick them out of this bubble he had made. I'm sure he was only trying to numb the pain, the stress of the life he was somewhat forced deeply in to by those people that just wanted his money and made him do fucktons more shows than he was meant to knowing he was a perfectionist and it was exhausting for him. He just wanted rest, he just needed real people- hence he liked children because they didn't lie or want anything like adults and were honest but of course it was too late. He had built his bubble and it burst in the sea and led to his quiet death.

 He was a good man, he just needed help, maturity, and to listen and act on  the right people around him. To learn that life is about more than checking goals off of a list, seeing people as functional and paying your way round everything. If you bribe people to help you, they don't want what is best for you. They want to stroke your ego because it's what you want. Status breeds narcissism and it's one of the worst character flaws which needs serious help. The right people came, but he just shut them down because they didn't say what he wanted to hear. It's hard when you're used to his life but necessary because what you want to hear isn't always what you're told and not what you'd like. Particularly with narcissism or ego problems which need professional help and importantly a willingness to get better in themselves. 

I find the situation with MJ extra sad because he was so lonely too. I was even looking at interviews with his ex wife Lisa-Marie after he died and she realised he was the only one that truly loved her and she loved him dearly too but he just didn't have the right mindset because of his bubble, he was too immature and didn't want to be told the kind of stuff I'm saying now for example or if he knew he didn't want to act on it because he was comfortable and used to his life so it led to his demise. As it would anyone living in a land of dreams. He couldn't even have the love of his life because he couldn't get it right. He didn't understand about his bubble and that he needed to pop it and grow some maturity and understand his flaws and how the world works. That's the problem with having things handed to you in life, laziness become ingrained, temptation to go to the familiar slips back and you never grow. You become childish, play games, push the right and special people away or treat them like shit so they leave and you never get anything deep and meaningful in life. Your mindset that you're unwilling to change fucks it all up. They complain about fake people but the people around you are a reflection of who you are. Take a look at what you're giving out to the world instead of pointing fingers. Don't ask why things happen, ask why you allowed for it to happen and what you did to attract certain situations. 

There's good people deep down everywhere in everyone... Even bankers, dictators, politicians.... all complex characters are human. And people can change but as Dave Wong said you must remember there are two ways to dehumanize someone: by dismissing them, and by idolizing them. You dismiss people by using them or playing games... You unfairly strip them of humanity, you cut them deeply. You idolise people, you make them into something they are not even though they are human they're made into a demi-god. In turn you treat and make them into something they are not and the weak of mind try and transform themselves into this image too but no. It's not real, and you can never be that way. 

Just keep it real with yourself and others, keep your feet on the ground. Have a good look at real life and at yours. Get your head out of your arse if you need to. 

Don't end up like another failure because you must understand my dear that you fail if the only thing you conquer in this life is the material world. Why? Because that's piss easy, all you need to do is surrender your soul. 

Analyse your life, really look at it. Look at where you have destructive behaviour, you've created bubbles or if your whole life is a bubble and begin to bring yourself back to reality. It's hard but if you don't you'll never know true happiness and I know for a fact that that's what anyone really craves for, not checking conquests of people, and things off of a list. It's about growing. 

Remember, you can live in a bubble where you think everyone is good and that will hurt you too because you've got those people in the negative bubbles that will use you, or if you're negative you'll attract them because like attracts like so really be careful. 

Work on yourself and maybe get proper professional help because if you've lived in a bubble which we almost all have at some point to some degree, there may be more than meets the eye that needs assistance and with a professional you will be guided better and more motivated. But first you must truly want it because only you can change yourself. You must be willing to cut off from the toxic ones unwilling to change and stunting your growth. You must grow the parts of yourself that live in entitlement or negativity and be willing to. Then you will know true peace, then you can amend your past and have a real future based on real things and real people. Then you will be a real man or woman. Then you can finally be proud of what you have achieved in life because it's legitimate and it serves you and humanity in the right ways. 

Please listen, please change, please don't hurt people and trample them anymore. You'll push them too far or set them on a dark path and if you're going down and that's your choice, but don't bring good people with good intentions down with you. And be truly unselfish and kind but remember that the road to hell is paved with good intentions. 

Take care and I hope you listen to my message, and all the other ones I've shared. I pray you have read it and you will act on it because ignorance is one of the most dangerous things. 

I know you all know right from wrong, so do it. We are all human. 

-Dalanda

Xoxo

Stupid rain messed up my hair... Paris is such a rainy city at the moment :-(

I don't even remember what I was smiling at... Probably my own joke I made about my face whilst taking this picture...

I hope you're feeling good!! 

I'm resisting the urge to be sick atm so I'm going to lie down, keep swallowing down and hope it passes. Ugh. 

But enough about me!... Loljk it's my blog. I'll share a few bits and pieces with you all tomorrow (later today). I saw the cutest little pug! *_* didn't take any pictures but I thought I'd share that because it made me really happy, I adore dogs so much. Just give me all the doggies and we will play and cuddle forever!!!

Kisses!!!

-Dalanda 

Xoxo