- F Scott Fitzgerald, A New Leaf

Higher vibrations

Higher vibrations. 

The things that move us, bring us true happiness & the very thing we are searching for in every low pleasure we seek & 'gain' (I put gain in quotation marks cause it's not really one, all things come at a price, this one happens to be our hearts). 

Higher vibrations are something we all strive for whether we realise it or not. It's something found in the simple, free but meaningful things in life like unconditional love, kindness, joy... They raise us higher and cause us to smile, and have that contentment and deep satisfaction within ourselves... not just on the surface, or to what everyone sees but on the inside. There are many swans in the world... Looking beautiful & elegant on the surface & paddling ferociously underneath because of course, nothing is as it seems. 

I could go into spirituality, and becoming 'one' with one's self but I won't... You could look into it though if you want to or have an interest. 

To me, without trying to trivialise it, it all boils down being good to ourselves & others, loving unconditionally, being honest, treating people as we'd like to be treated, listening to our gut; inner voices and feelings, accepting life's lessons with grace, knowing we are supported always & we should ask for it & trust in it, & not doing things that cause harm, pain or hurt to ourselves &/or others. Raise the collective vibration, don't drop it. 

At the end of the day, we are our own beings, we have our own free will, hearts, souls etc. Because of this, we must always progress on our own for our own development. Your lessons may involve others but they are ultimately yours and you are ultimately here to grow & advance as an individual, mind and soul as we are a soul with a body, not the other way round. 

We all progress at our own pace- of our choosing and we can't force others to grow (by grow I just mean be in a position of happiness where they make the best decisions for themselves and others, not in terms of being more advanced or anything... It's not an ego thing, it's just about being the best person you can be, which is difficult). 

Sometimes, the ones closest to us are not on our vibration. It's hard but it's okay, they'll get there one day... We just shouldn't sink to their low vibration from being around them in order to adjust and gel better with them. Positivity and happiness is always stronger and we should hold are own!  

We can act as guides to help people help themselves & make the best decisions for themselves, but only gently and if they're ready, because we can't force anyone and when one is used to something & it's their habit, they'll protect it with everything which is why some never progress as they always hold themselves back... But being happy? It's a state we all wish for and the quicker those around them wake up, the quicker they'll join... No one wants to be sad and feel emptiness and discontent... No one likes to feel disconnected. It's a safety mechanism of those that switch of feelings instead of facing them, or those that spend so long weighing things up that they end up never progressing and living stagnant, unfulfilling lives with hardly any true emotion as in weighing up, they switch off till they're ready to deal with it (which is sadly rarely). 

Thing is, we can't have it all... hedonism, debauchery... All these things may seem like fun, and 'the life' that we all strive towards because that's how the media portrays it so it's what people aspire to... But it's not 'fun' it's damaging to ourselves, our souls & our happiness. It isn't real contentment or joy but a gross perversion of it... There's no love only lust, no happiness or contentment, only greed, only the dark side instead of a balance. It's saddening to see just how much hedonism & debauchery is promoted in our media with ridiculous music videos, tabloids & music which are quite frankly vulgar.

 When they promote such things and people follow it's like they steal your soul away & let you disconnect yourself from your heart like them, so that you're able to do those soul destroying things too without thinking of the consequences.  I mean, with crap in the media it'll sell, but just for the fact that it's been promoted. A lot of things now are auto tuned crap with repetitive beats, story lines and themes. I don't understand... It destroys several art forms. One can only really touch people and make them actually like them if you do something meaningful & make them feel something. 

People have goals in life but at the same time they don't. How? Because they aspire to be things that they see in mass media, or other negative channels; and it's a dream, an aspiration, yes... But it's not theirs, it's what's been idealised and so they've taken it as their own. Some people grow up and wake up, some people don't and they either strive for that life and end up with the hedonism, debauchery, low pleasures, no soul without the dream or they achieve it and realise it's not really what they hoped it'd be. "The child is grown, the dream is gone." I woke up to the sound of beeping & that song in my head, that line in particular (Pink Floyd- Comfortably numb). But I digress, (as per usual). It's never all it's made out to be, they'll be the first to tell you that in their quiet moments, you see it in their faces, the melt downs, the fake smiles, it's everywhere...

In general, in life you must always be aware... Open your eyes. Really open them and look at yourself and the world around you. 

Anyway, to sumarise, keep your vibration UP. Don't hurt people, don't be cruel to yourself/others & understand that we are human and a mistake is only bad if you don't learn from it. Forgive yourself if you need to & try & right to your wrongs. We can change, if we want to. I'm not saying don't go out, have fun, spend your money and 'Carpe diem', but don't leave your heart behind... there are better ways to seize the day emotionally & one shouldn't use the world to try and buy themselves a soul, because all they'll be doing is trying to buy back what they've already given up freely in pursuit of the world. 

Take care, look after yourself & listen to yourself. Never silence those deep inner feelings, thoughts or voices of guidance, advise & positivity. 

Love you unconditionally,

-Dalanda

Xoxo

P.S- Please keep me in your thoughts, I'll keep you all in mine regardless!

Bright blessings

Xxx

“You differ from a great man in only one respect: the great man was once a very little man, but he developed one important quality: he recognized the smallness and narrowness of his thoughts and actions. Under the pressure of some task that meant a great deal to him, he learned to see how his smallness, his pettiness endangered his happiness. In other words, a great man knows when and in what way he is a little man. A little man does not know he is little and is afraid to know. He hides his pettiness and narrowness behind illusions of strength and greatness, someone else's strength and greatness. He's proud of his great generals but not of himself. He admires an idea he has not had, not one he has had. The less he understands something, the more firmly he believes in it. And the better he understands an idea, the less he believes in it.” 

- Wilhelm Reich

Hi guys,

I'm really sick right now, prayers would be much appreciated. 

Thank you so much

Love you

-Dalanda

Xxx

"Eternal rest, grant unto him o Lord, & let perpetual light shine upon him. May he rest in peace."

RIP bro... You were lovely. 

Please keep him & his loved ones in your thoughts & prayers. 

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

I'll light a candle for you

Mulberry Alexa 

Black with gold hardware

Oh my God, this is so beautiful! 

❤️

Saw this today and fell in love ❤️

Rose

So, this was meant to uploaded before, but I hadn't realised that it didn't work, the blogger app is stupid. >.>

Anyways.... 

For a long time I had hated flowers, and roses in particular... Bad memories, bad, bad feelings etc. Then, I realised, I shouldn't let events and unfortunate circumstances rob me of enjoying the beauty of the world, in particular, nature... Flowers. Roses were my favourite. 

I always speak of being nice & doing random acts of kindness for people because it's just the right thing to do as a citizen of earth to be kind, you could be making someone's day and happiness & love makes the world go round which is why we should always love and share love, unconditionally.... Even to your enemies. 

There's not such thing as loving only those who love you back... Well there is, but it's a stupid & selfish thing to believe in my opinion. Most don't love because they don't know how and they've never felt it or a plethora of other reasons which mainly boil down to an irrational fear. The ones that don't love you back need love the most. That thought shows a fear of love and opening up and holding back which isn't good for oneself or the world. That thought pattern often leaves people alone because when people fear to love because they only love those that love them, they often assume people don't love them and never say or share their love or feelings with those that they feel for. 

Love can always be sparked in people if you give it a chance to blossom... Friends, families, lovers... It just needs an opportunity to grow and everything else kinda falls into place when we decide to he honest and follow our gut and inner guidance. 

Today I was the recipient of an act of kindness. 
Someone had a rose in their hand and they found me, gave it to me, told me I was beautiful and to have a great night, hugged me and walked away. I'd never met this person before in my life and yet they shared this beautiful rose with me. They has no idea what it meant to me, they were just being kind. And that's the essence of these random acts of kindness you've no idea how symbolic they are or what they could mean, or the ripple effect they could have... They do change people, in small and big ways. 

"You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back." — Barbara de Angelis


I received a rose with a smile on my face, and it signified beauty, and one's kindness, not the negativity I once associated it with. It's still there, but I have a choice, because happiness is a choice and I chose not to let it hurt me anymore. Simple. 

I love you. 

Don't be afraid to tell people you love them. Ever. If you feel it... If you feel anything, say it with love... Good or bad. 

Love, light & bright blessings,

-Dalanda

P.S- I should add, because I've said before I don't like flowers much before everything, I do love to look at flowers, beautiful gardens, nature etc, always have before shit happened, but I've always found that as a gift, they're not that great because they die, they're not eternal or something you can keep for very long. Being sentimental, I like having things to remember you by forever, other than memories. As my friend Ama joked about me, "yeah, if you want to get Dalanda flowers, you can, but only if that flower is Daisy by Marc Jacobs."  Hahaha, she knows me too well.