Anxieties, paranoia and past hurts are terrible things; particularly when you see them from a negative perspective. 

Often people look to the hurt in their life as just that- hurt. It's so easy to lose yourself in detrimental feelings, experiences and mistakes. Dwelling on them can end up leaving you too overwhelmed to move forward which is why so many people hold on to their hurt as burdens. 

Instead of seeing the lessons and strength that your hardships bring, you end up spending far too long poking at your wounds, drawing blood. Putting off the bandages for yet another day. 

But one must remember that there is growth in being free, and in no longer allowing yourself being chained by your past because you hold the key. 

Your pain, mistakes and bad experiences shape you as a person, but they don't make you who you are. The courage, self-control, wisdom and fight you have because of all of the things you've thorough is who you are. You've been hurt, but you're still breathing, you're still here and where there is life there is hope. 

When you're anxious, or scared of giving those past wounds that final clean and dressing; it's very easy to find yourself trying to solve your problems all alone without anyone of any support. But look at this:

We all need at least somebody, hard as it may be to accept! We do need to know how to be in our own company too. But when you need someone to talk to just for fun, or things get hard it's important to have somebody there for you- even if it's just to check up on you and see you're okay. If you have issues or problems no one can fix them for because you have to make the changes yourself; however there is no motivation, guidance or help when you're fighting your own corner. 

So don't feel like you should or have to be alone. Don't feel like you can't be there for someone too. Don't feel like it's not okay to discuss your emotions so that you can heal. Dont feel like it's not okay to be brave, and say fuck it to the fears that hold you back from your dreams. Don't feel like it's not okay to hurt because that is part of the healing process too. 

Just don't forget to move on and learn your lesson once you're done licking your wounds. 

You're far stronger than you think, and you'll realise that as you start allowing yourself to heal and let go of that which no longer serves for your highest good, and happiness. You're a soldier. 

All my love,

-Dalanda  

xoxo