I've been thinking a lot these past few weeks about people, connections, technology and how they've made the world tiny despite the fact that we are simply a mere speck. Then yesterday, I stumbled across this missed connection that I thought was both tragic and beautiful (it's here if anyone is interested http://boston.craigslist.org/gbs/mis/5237173491.html ). I took this as a sign that I should probably write a bit about how we as people are connected and almost all as one. I also wanted to give you all a little reminder to cherish the special connections in life that feel right, and not walk away or forget to be grateful and kind. You could push very special people away, or into bad things and sadness. We can suppress, we can hide but ultimately we are souls in a body ruled by emotions, energies, vibrations, feelings- feeling a lack of feelings is still  a feeling. Because of this, seemingly small moments can change a person or affect them for a long time. You can leave pretty big imprints on some's heart with small acts- as you've seen in that missed connection. 

We are like little celestial dots linked into one big constellation. We are the stars in the sky, we are part of something bigger and this is both amazing, beautiful and strange. Think of the six degrees of separation theory.

With the rise of technology and a huge emphasis on becoming linked with each other, we've simultaneously become more connected and also more disassociated and disconnected than before. 

The same devices that connect us with people from all over the world alienate us from those just across the room, or those friends and people you care about that are just a few taps away. It becomes easier to ignore people and cut people off- sometimes without even consciously meaning to.

 People forget how fragile people's emotions are , and many trudge along under the illusion that connections are always there and always will be. However, like the stars in the sky it's fleeting, it changes. 

Don't let the ease of technology take away from putting up a real fight for your loved ones and making an effort for the people you want in your life. Don't let technology stop you from doing those things that require real effort, like who sends letters anymore? I know I do but it's a rarity, and just not really on people's list of things to do. 

I can't blame you though, with the rise of technology, no one is looking out for letters when they can't even get a text or message back from someone. 

With a wider scope of people to choose from, we're finding people we truly vibe with, admire or even love which is wonderful. Even I myself have met some awesome people online, and learned some amazing things through the Internet without trawling through several books or travelling through most of the world- although I would love to some day. 

I'm sure it's probably the same with you. Maybe you've even met someone or some people that have changed your life from the Internet. Maybe you've found some information that changed your life, or both! The possibilities really are endless. 

You hear crazy stories of some even getting married to people they've met on the Internet which is amazing I think. Just because the world is so vast, I think that your soulmate or someone you truly love mightn't always necessarily live next door or anywhere near you. And if you live in a small village, you probably would have exhausted all options when it comes to suitable partners by the age of about 20. And no one wants to settle, you want to hold out for someone that sets your heart ablaze not just someone that's will do because you're lonely or you want a partner/ someone there. I'd rather be alone. 

But I digress...

Technology is truly a powerful tool because it is a source of knowledge but  also a source of entertainment (think of all the animal videos! *_* :-D). It also puts people on our path that are meant to be there in a new and different way- like another source of fate, and it reinforces our connection to each other. 

In particular the connection to the people that belong in our space and in our lives that have been put there for a reason. Sometimes we are born and bred somewhere, and it doesn't feel like home, but some people do. If we didn't have technology and a chance at finding those people and places maybe some would feel displaced forever. I know many that already do. 

So, never forget: do not let the ease of communication make you complacent or cause you to stop making an effort. Don't ignore special people in your life. Every single kind of relationship requires communication and effort on both parts.  Now you have even less of an excuse because it's so easy to just shoot someone a message and see how they are. It becomes even worse to ignore people when it's so easy not to, so don't be that arsehole. 

Technology is growing and developing so rapidly, but that's all man made. Don't forget the real things that you can't force or buy. 

The world works in cycles... We see that through seasons, day and night, life and death, etc.

 Few things are constant in life which sucks because people generally like stability and dislike unwelcome change (well, I'm pretty Taurus-heavy and those are my two least favourite things). But, you can keep some things constant. You can have some things in life that are real and that last even when everything around you crumbles and that's why people are so important. No one wants to fight alone but some have to because there's missed connections, another's laziness/ selfishness got in the way, or there were just simply no good people around to help. 

It doesn't have to be that way. It really doesn't. We could all be better people, we could all try harder, be bolder, smile more, spread more love and use our greater connections to one another to be kind, to be a friend and to be help. 

After all, if there was no internet and no technology you probably would have never heard of me or known that I even exist. If you hadn't stumbled across my blog you wouldn't be reading these words now. Maybe they'd stay trapped in my head, or put into a book, song, or poem that no one would ever read. 

And if it wasn't for technology, and me seeing that missed connection all the way from America, I wouldn't even have been inspired to write this piece for you. 

I hope it's worth it, and I hope it's inspired you.  I hope you hold on to the special stars in your life and let them know. Be open, honest and kind. If you do that, you can't fail. Just trust yourself. 

With love and courage from me to you,

-Dalanda

xoxo

P.S- it's national poetry day!!! 

Here's a poem for you from one of my faves.