Stop re-opening your doors for toxic people &/ or situations then calling it “seeking closure”. Certain things don’t work out in life.. And that’s okay. 

The key is acceptance & moving forward to bigger & better things. You deserve & owe yourself more than to walk into toxic situations or to stay with toxic people. Don't stick your hands in fire! (Metaphorically) or as many like to do, stick their hands in, get severely burnt and go back for more to test if the fire was really all that hot.  it's really unhelpful and not a very clever or sensible thing to do for yourself. I mean, for me this seems blindingly obvious, & many would read this like yeah Dalanda, duh! But you'll be surprised at how many people don't take a step back to look at their life and realise how much shit they put themselves through or are/ have been causing others. 

In life, we can be so busy we forget to look at ourselves. You should never forget to though, self reflection is important and self-mastery is the ultimate mastery.  If you are so busy you don't have time to reflect, breathe and gather yourself you should either manage your time better, or do less... I don't feel like overworking & having loads of money is worth the physical & mental over-exertion. You won't be able to enjoy the money anyway because work/ stress from it would have messed with your psyche, or you are working just to count down when your next day off or holiday is... I think that's a pretty sad life. We deserve better, we aren't slaves or robots, we are people. 

You should seek to uplift yourself & others, not sabotage them. Instead of wasting your time on foolish endeavours, you could be working on yourself, or talking to & relating with genuine people that will help you and/or you can help them too. But you'll never find that if you're stuck in negative and destructive social (or other toxic) cycles. It's even harder if you don't realise you're doing it, so as I said before really take a deep look. Find the courage so you can look, change, keep, fix accordingly.

You are with you for life, invest in yourself spiritually & emotionally... not just with nice clothes, hair or shoes. Be able to enjoy your own company & begin to try and understand yourself because through that you'll understand others better & act accordingly. Some treat others like crap and it's because they're out of touch & not empathetic, so they can't always see how their actions could make others feel. That's sad and a poor excuse for those behaviours, but it happens & that's why it's so important to reflect. You could save yourself & others a lot of distress. 

Be loving,

-Dalanda

xoxo